Choosing to place a child for adoption is a serious decision. No matter what point you are at in your adoption journey, there are several resources available to you. Begin by speaking with your adoption agency about post-adoption counseling or services which may be available.
There are several online communities which provide resources for birth parents and provide opportunities for birth parents to connect with each other. Active groups include (alphabetically):
- Big Tough Girl
- BirthMom Buds
- Open Adoption: Double the Love (Facebook)
- Sally's Lambs
The laws on accessing birth records and health and background information varies depending on the state laws, the time an adoption took place, and the decisions made by birth parents and adoptive parents at the time of the adoption. In more recent adoptions, there is often some amount of openness and the information on birth records is typically known – in some cases, adoptive parents may even have a copy of original and adoptive birth certificates in safekeeping for adopted children. It is also common practice that health and background information was openly exchanged and some level of contact and openness remains available to update this information as necessary. However, this culture of openness was not always the case. In adoptions in previous years, birth records and the identity of birth parents and children placed for adoption may not be known to one another. For birth parents or adopted people looking to learn more about the other for health, background, birth record, or other reasons there are options for search. First, begin with the agency or attorney that facilitated the original placement. Most adoption professionals today provide support and reunion services. If those services are not available, some have found success utilizing other search options. When searching for adoption information when an adoption was previously confidential, NCFA encourages that it be done in a sensitive way for the protection of all parties involved. We believe systems of mutual consent allow for this. (Learn more about mutual consent here). The use of registries, state vital records offices, placing adoption agencies, and appropriate confidential intermediary support can help this process to go smoothly for everyone involved.
Registry options include:
NCFA does not endorse any particular registry or service. This information is provided for reference only.