Adoption Resources : Pregnant and Thinking about Adoption?

Pregnant and Thinking about Adoption?

If you have an unplanned pregnancy and are trying to make decisions that will be in your best interest and in the best interest of your child, adoption may be right for you. This decision is a personal one. What may be right for one person may not be right for another. Before you make any decision, it would be in your interest, and in the interest of your unborn child, to receive counseling. This will provide the opportunity to receive objective input from a professional and to learn factual information about adoption. You will then be in a better position to make an informed decision about your future and the future of your child.

How do you find out where to receive counseling? Adoption agencies often provide counseling and other support services. NCFA’s member adoption agencies are a good source for information. You could also consult with your state’s Licensing Specialist for the names of other licensed adoption agencies.

A counselor will ask you many questions to help you in your decision-making. Examples of important issues to consider are:

1. Could I handle a child and a job and/or school at the same time?
2. An example of something I would have to give up by having a child with me is..?
3. Am I able to give the child the love he/she needs/deserves?
4. Am I patient enough to deal with the noise, confusion, and the 24-hour-a-day responsibility of having a child?
5. How would I take care of my child’ health and safety?

Many adoption agencies also offer support groups that allow expecting mothers to speak with birthmothers who have placed for adoption. These individuals’ experiences and insights can be an invaluable tool.

It will also be important to consider the adoption process itself. State laws govern the process of placing a child for adoption and adopting a child. These laws vary across the country. To find out more about state adoption laws, you can review NCFA’s answers to frequently asked adoption questions. You could also contact your state’s Adoption Specialist who will be able to provide useful information.

Are you concerned about the privacy of a decision to place your child for adoption? NCFA supports the right of birthmothers to choose a confidential adoption, if they desire one. If you have questions regarding your state’s laws on the privacy of an adoption decision, contact NCFA.